Totally with you. Though I've never actually been out with someone who would subscribe to the put out theory. (thank goodness, since I find the idea that sex is a favor to them and not a mutual pleasure even creepier than the idea that dinner is a favor to me...)
I know they don't mean that, but that leaves my side of the bargain kind of flapping around in empty space. They pay and I... be grateful? Go out with them again? Give them a good review on Yelp? What? This is the closest I come to understanding the variant on fey lore that says fairies don't like you to say thank you.
I had one guy try to explain it to me that I was providing the good company. But it's insulting to him to imply that he does not provide equally good company to me... and if I thought he really did believe it was my job to entertain him while he just sat back and enjoyed it, I'd find that insulting to me.
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Date: 2011-11-14 07:42 pm (UTC)I know they don't mean that, but that leaves my side of the bargain kind of flapping around in empty space. They pay and I... be grateful? Go out with them again? Give them a good review on Yelp? What? This is the closest I come to understanding the variant on fey lore that says fairies don't like you to say thank you.
I had one guy try to explain it to me that I was providing the good company. But it's insulting to him to imply that he does not provide equally good company to me... and if I thought he really did believe it was my job to entertain him while he just sat back and enjoyed it, I'd find that insulting to me.