Interesting. And also interesting for me to realize through reading this, that I like the nuance to come into the relationship later. Later in a relationship I am very switchy and I can be very butch at times, but this is a part of me that I generally only express and show my lovers later. And similarly, while I love the softness and feminine side of my girlfriend, somehow I like that this was only slowly revealed to me and is a bit of a "just for you" kind of thing. Of course, it is about that individual dynamic.
And I completely understand the distinction you are making about it being too gender essentialist. Personally, I really like to play with that. I like to play the girl and play to the gender stereotype, maybe even specifically in my romantic relationships because I don't do that in the rest of my life. And so I like the freedom to be able to do that unapologetically and without fear of that being misunderstood. And only someone who gets and shares and can play with that too would be a good match for me.
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Date: 2011-11-14 02:31 pm (UTC)And I completely understand the distinction you are making about it being too gender essentialist. Personally, I really like to play with that. I like to play the girl and play to the gender stereotype, maybe even specifically in my romantic relationships because I don't do that in the rest of my life. And so I like the freedom to be able to do that unapologetically and without fear of that being misunderstood. And only someone who gets and shares and can play with that too would be a good match for me.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.