Yeah, the problem for me is, while I do get off on being submissive, and submissive to a male dominant, in a sexual context, the idea that I should be submissive *because I'm female* is not just not a turn-on, it's a dealbreaker. And the idea that he should be dominant because he's male, the same.
I know way too many female doms (including very femme ones) and male subs (including very butch ones) for that to feel plausible to me, let alone the fact that my feminism finds it distasteful. My dynamic is just my dynamic, not the essence of an entire gender. And anyone who is not clear on that distinction is a much worse match for me than they would be over any amount of money issues.
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Date: 2011-11-14 02:06 pm (UTC)I know way too many female doms (including very femme ones) and male subs (including very butch ones) for that to feel plausible to me, let alone the fact that my feminism finds it distasteful. My dynamic is just my dynamic, not the essence of an entire gender. And anyone who is not clear on that distinction is a much worse match for me than they would be over any amount of money issues.